Rachael Ray Shares Advice for Long-Lasting Marriage Ahead of 15th Wedding Anniversary

February 25, 2020

Rachael Ray is gearing up to celebrate her 15th wedding anniversary with her husband John Cusimano.

The cookbook author told PEOPLE that they would be celebrating the milestone anniversary this September in a village in Sarteano, Italy, which has a special meaning to them.

“We were married in Tuscany, had our 10-year vow renewal at Castello di Velona, the same Tuscan castle, and are excited to celebrate our 15th wedding anniversary there this fall,” she said while hosting the annual Heineken Burger Bash at the South Beach Wine & Food Festival on Friday.

“Sarteano is charming, romantic and beautiful, and since we like to go back each year, I bought some land, and we are now building a house so we can have our friends stay with us in Italy. We are so excited!”

When asked about the secret to a long-lasting marriage, the 51-year-old was more than eager to share.

“We actually like each other, have a lot of the same interests, and find it sexy to share bad behavior, like staying up too late, eating the wrong foods, and listening to loud music—rap, opera and any of our 3,000 records—wherever we are,” she admitted.

“We love being together and not acting our age! We don’t trust quiet people,” she explained of their unique connection.

Ray admitted that communication is key even if it results in a temporary fight.

“When we are mad at each other we scream,” Ray said. “If John is being an a–hole, I tell him, then I feel better. And John does the same thing. We share a great sense of humor which helps.”

She admitted that they are “both volatile” and loudly express their feelings and thoughts.

“We yell to get it out, then move on,” Ray said, adding that when they make up it looks a little something like this: “We kiss, cut up vegetables, and John makes cocktails.”

Most importantly, she revealed that having a lot in common was the key to a successful and long-term marriage. “Ware not schedule keepers,” she said.

“We are happy to eat at different times each day, but we like to do the whole process together. It’s great that we really like each other—and I like the music his rock band [The Cringe] plays because you can’t fake liking bad music.”

Her parting piece of advice? Don’t take things so seriously.

“I think if more people would take themselves less seriously, they would be a lot happier in their day-to-day lives,” she says. “We both work hard and find it easy to laugh at ourselves. It works for us.”

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